对妈妈的依恋

by Katharine Butler Hathaway

Everybody knows that a good mother gives her children a feeling of trust and stability. She is their earth. She is the one they can count on for the things that matter most of all. She is their food and their bed and the extra blanket when it grows cold in the night; she is their warmth nd their health and their shelter; she is the one they want to near when they cry.

She is the oly person in the whole world in a whole lifetime who can be these things to her children. There is no substitute for her. Somehow even her clothes feel different to her children's hands from anybody else's clothes. Only to touch her skirt or her sleeve makes a troubled child fell better.

今天在规定自己每日早晨必须阅读一些有意义的文章中，读到这一篇关于母亲和孩子的句子。

我想这种依附的关系在孩子的某个阶段是成立的，所以母亲尽可能都会满足孩子心灵上，需要母亲的要求。而这个正是孩子长大后，维系与母亲的感情的基石。

孩子和妈妈亲不亲，很大程度取决于幼年时期对妈妈的亲赖度，以及少年时期妈妈对孩子的管教方式，我想妈妈对孩子的信心也有关键的作用。

这几天忍不住对涵涵碎碎念，控制不了的时候，更是对她吼！吼她不懂得体谅妈妈、吼她总是让下班后的妈妈很累很累，每一件事都非得要妈妈帮忙，不得假手于他人。

每个晚上躺在床上的时候，总觉得自己好象十年没有睡过觉了，但是看到涵涵依着自己的手臂沉沉睡去的样子，却又觉得自己这么辛苦的付出应该都是值得的。其实怎么舍得对她发脾气、让她难过呢？女儿本来就不比儿子，女儿应该是要捧在手心上疼的，更何况她是一个这么贴心的孩子。

毕竟才两岁多一点，黏妈妈是正常的反应。希望未来几年努力建立起来的母女情，是未来更长的路上的重要铺垫。